February 10, 2010
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Lost Friends . . .
My mom had a best friend in high school (named Judy, same as my mom). Judy had a daughter, Heather, who was two years older than me. Every time my mom would visit Colorado Springs, I would go visit Heather. She was like my sister. She was one of those gal pals who taught you the "pass out game" (I know how unsafe that is now, but back then it seemed like just something else Heather would teach me). We read passages together from Judy Blume's Forever and Fast Times at Ridgemont High before it became a movie. We called in to request Total Eclipse of the Heart at least 100 times over one particular summer. She saved a cat that was being tormented at the park. She was totally my hero.
The last time I saw Heather, she had just gotten her driver's license, had fake, long acrylic nails, was working at Furr's cafeteria and was telling me that she was going to get her own place soon because her mom "was a big rag." We lost touch after that. I had heard from someone that she moved out at 17, changed her name from Heather to Heaven (she was big on VC Andrews--wonder if she regrets that name change now), married some guy in the military and had kids. She and her mom had a huge falling out. My brother, when he was in college and visiting Colorado Springs, swore he saw her stripping at a club.
I never knew what happened to her. I've used every resource on the internet to try and find her, locate her. Finally, I broke down and looked up her mom's address and sent Judy#2 a letter yesterday. "Hi, remember me? Can you get me in touch with Heather?"
See, it's not one of those things that makes me believe Heather and I had a falling out ourselves. Her disappearing was kind of what I might expect from Heather. She was a wild child.
So, I hope my letter finds her mother's hands and that her mother has some way of contacting her, or getting ME in touch with her again. I can't help but wonder what she's doing, where she is. I've been having dreams about her lately, dreams where she is trying to get to me, but can't. I had to listen to those dreams. I hope I find her.
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I truly hope you find her, and in spite of what path she has taken, you and Heather will be able to reconnect and reminisce over some good, old times. I too have tried to get back in touch with a few friends here and there that I had known from years past - - one or two have been successful, others not so much. But I believe the longing to relive to some degree those care-free, nostalgic days often inspires us in the search. With luck, Judy will reply to your letter. Best of luck and please let us know if you hear anything.
I often wonder about old friends myself. I hope you find Heather & reconnect with her. It's amazing most of the time when you hook up with old friends. Last June my husband & I visited an old friend, George in MI while visiting my sister. We hadn't seen him in 25 yrs. He was divorced & laid off. I had dropped my husband off to visit him and I went to visit my best friend. I came back & visited with George for about an hour. We were all best friends 25 yrs. ago & George and I almost got together. He had told my husband some things that he didn't know which we talked about driving home. We've been separated since 2 weeks after we got home. There are other issues like his porn addiction why we are separated but that visit with George broke the camel's back.
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